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Dear Readers,

This blog is a secret. Not from you, but from my husband. Right now he's out helping a relative and I am at home frantically taking a crash course on blogger to get this blog started before he gets back.

I need to complain.

But the thing is, I sometimes complain too much. And let's get one thing straight - he says "complain" I say "redirect" or "help". Others may say I nag or harp. Whatever. The point is, I think that wives have a lot to say about the education of their husbands as husbands. But to redirect a husband too much is basically signing the divorce papers early. Right? And women can go through a lot to even get to the point of marriage. This is a lot of pressure.

So I've created a name - Jane - and this blog. We'll call my husband "Jay" and the blog Jane's Complaints. I'm going to write posts on my complaints and we'll see if this has a direct impact on the satisfaction of my marriage.

It is interesting to think about marriage. It is the coming together of two people (I'm for gay marriage so please don't start on the whole discussion of man and woman - if you aren't enlightened enough to accept that love is love, then this isn't the blog for you). No matter what the circumstances are of these people, there is no chance they had the same upbringing. Every little difference counts. Jay was brought up to leave the lid on the toilet seat up. I think that's gross. I close it. I mean, germs spread when you flush or haven't you heard? (Although when I said that to Jay he basically called me difficult and picky for having so many housecleaning rules.)

So here you have these different backgrounds and you have two people committed for life (sounds like prison) and they are supposed to be happy.

When was anyone ever happy all the time?

Impossible. So this is for those who can admit they have a real marriage - you know, one that takes a lot of work. And boy, does my marriage take work. Spread the word. Give me advice. Ask for advice. Give me a good mint julep recipe. Send me a photo of your cat. But most of all, please, please, please listen to my complaints!

- Jane